You Have More Power Than You Think 

When you eliminate limitations in your mind you set yourself up for the ultimate success and self fulfillment. The power in the human brain is unmatched. We only use 10% of our brain power. 

You have the power within you to do and be anything you want to be. If you believe in yourself you’re limitless, no matter who may doubt you, when you know deep inside of you that there is purpose and power then outward forces and opinions carry no weight.

On the other hand if you don’t believe in yourself and listen to people who are negative then you stand in the way of your own power, happiness and success. All the power you need is within you, even if you don’t want to admit it. Sometimes it’s hard for us to admit that we are in control because the moment we do that we have to start asking ourselves some serious questions. 

Cultivate the power within you. Feed it, nurture it, grow it. You’ll know it is at its prime when others thoughts about what you can and can’t do don’t effect you. You’ll also know because you’ll see bigger goals for yourself, bigger expectations. Things that seemed trivial or challenging before will now be doable to say the least. You will know that you can tackle on anything just because you are the powerful and you have it within you to do it. 

Sometimes it may seem like life has a hold of us. Finances, time, relationships. You have to turn these situations around and get back in control of your life. Maybe you cannot control the fact that your insurance company upped your premiums. What you can change is your reaction and your plan to get everything done and paid for moving forward. That is where the power is. 

Recognizing your power in a situation is the first step and it may take some getting use to if you have thought of yourself as powerless in the past. Once you recognize how to take control of a situation the rest is up to you. 

When you’re in an argument or disagreement you may show you have the most power by not responding to something that once angered or triggered you. 

Power comes in different forms and varies from person to person and situation to situation. 

One thing is for sure, you have all the power you need inside of you to control your life! 

I’m Vegan Now

I am becoming a vegan and you should too! 
Have you guys heard of that new Netflix documentary called “What the Health?” It is kind of buzzing right now and of course I had to watch it. Actually I came by it on accident and heard about it from a few coworkers. It’s about an hour and a half long and BEYOND interesting. If you know me, I LOVE documentaries. 
So it is about everything we eat and the effects that our food leaves on our body. It also talks about what actually causes cancer, heart disease and diabetes. This documentary is what inspired me to cut meat out of my life for good. It wasn’t too hard considering I had done away with red meat and pork a few months before my decision to become vegan. 
So what is a vegan? Vegans eat not animal product what so ever including dairy. The whole diet consists of plant based foods, legumes and beans. 
How did I start? I ate the same for the first few days excluding meat, eggs and dairy from my diet. Meat definitely was not the hard part. I have a harder time giving up eggs and ice cream. Then I sort of realized that I needed to do a little more research. Whenever I’m trying something new or starting a new project I do extensive research, meaning I google everything and watch YouTube videos. 
I found that I needed to incorporate certain foods or plants to my totally plant based diet. Veggies burgers, organic fruits and veggies, brown rice, whole wheat pasta, chia seeds and flax seeds all became apart of my grocery list. I also started going in the organic food isle (I had know idea this was a thing) and ended up falling in love with the all natural non-gmo cereals, tofu and beans. They even have veggie nuggets (my kids love these). 
I buy vanilla almond milk and snack on strawberries, bananas and blue berries. I add Chia seeds and Flax seeds to everything. Avacado is pretty useful too. The most important thing is seasoning and how you prepare it. The plant based diet doesn’t have to be boring. Especially since it will leave you healthier, stronger and feeling better. 
Why I did it? Health. My health, my children’s health, and health habits for generations to come. If my children grow up eating healthy they’ll teach their kids to do the same. Americans are so unhealthy because we’ve been taught that way, family barbecues, pizza night and eating what ever we want when we want just because we “can”. 
I buy and eat lots of rice, even before becoming vegan I loved rice. I add whatever veggies I want into the mix. It’s also fun to eat Taco Salad (without meat). Certain brands of cereal and energy bars are also helpful. It’s also a good idea to try different sauces to give your food flavor. 
If you’re thinking about becoming vegan you should! Do it on your own terms and do what’s best for you. Some people go cold turkey and for others it is a process and that’s okay. Don’t listen to the negativity, do some research and gather facts. Talk to a nutritionist. 


People may complain that it’s more expensive to buy organic, but when you’re dealing with what you eat and what sustains your health and wellness it’s always smart not to go for cheap and easy. There’s also the huge myth that you can’t get your nutrients from plants alone. Not only can you get all your nutrients from various plants you will start feeling better and eliminate the risk of serious illness like diabetes, cancer and heart disease. 

I mean, we are what we eat! 

Above all do what’s best for you and remember it is a process! Veganism isn’t something super easy to do. It takes a little more thought an research to prepare a meal. Cutting vegetables, making sure everything is seasoned right and having an understanding of what nutrients you need and where you can get them. It is definitely a learning process so don’t be too hard on yourself at first. You’ll get use to it. Soon you’ll be finding “go-to” meals and figuring out what foods work best for you. 

When Enough is Enough 

Have you ever been in a circumstance with a close friend or loved one who didn’t always treat you with respect? Perhaps they weren’t always truthful or even betrayed you in the past. Maybe the bad mouth you when you’re not around, or put you down when you are around. BUT, they’re your friend right? Your family, your significant other? Someone who isn’t supposed to do things like that to hurt you. 
You want to escape that sulky feeling right? You’re in their presence and you don’t know what exactly may spew out of their mouth this time or when the next verbal disagreement will be. Sometimes they may make you feel down or even have you rethinking your worth and abilities. 


When do you draw the line and say Enough is Enough? They’re your parent but they aren’t always parent like. Betrayal hurts, it hurts like hell because it always comes from those we love. If it didn’t it wouldn’t be as painful. There’s something extra wrong about a friend or family member doing wrong towards you versus a stranger. 
You hope in these people. You make excuse after excuse saying, “Oh she just had a bad day” or “maybe it is my fault”. Well I just wanna tell you that you deserve respect and honesty no matter who the relationship is with. You don’t deserve to be emotionally, physically or verbally abused by ANYONE but definitely not by people who you love and trust. 
I know what you’re thinking, “But he is my Dad!” 
“She’s my friend she doesn’t really mean it” 
It’s still hurts though doesn’t it? First of all you need to tell this person how you feel. You don’t have to be disrespectful, just let them know that you’re feelings are hurt or that you’re realizing the relationship or interactions you share are NOT healthy. 


Perhaps that doesn’t work. They keep up with the same old tricks. Manipulation, deceit, verbal or emotional abuse and maybe it gets even worse than that. 
Enough is enough when they first give you the sign that they won’t listen. They may tell you that you’re over reacting and need to calm down. 
Your mental health should always come first even if it is your own family destroying it. You deserve to be your best self, sane and happy. You may not even realize the damage done until you remove it and see how free you feel. You’ll always love them, always be respectful, but it’s more than okay to draw the line on communicating and even being around that person.
It’s gonna take some strength and courage but you can do it. You’ll be healthier this way. Just please always remember to ask yourself, “When is enough, enough? 

Why I Traced My Ancestry

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I’m sure you’ve noticed the growing popularity in those DNA kits and tracing your history/ancestry. If not, all you have to do is google “DNA kits” and you’ll see an array of companies you can use for this process.

Some are skeptical. I get it, but if you go into the research and know anything about biology or DNA you’ll realize this is no scam or gimmick. Just like figuring out Paternal DNA you can get your DNA tested against different groups of people across the world to see if you have similar DNA as those groups of people. I’ve tried two of the DNA companies but eventually I plan on trying all of them because they offer different services.

So I’m here to share with you my experience results and reasons for why I love this fairly new technology and think it is sooo important.

Being African-American we don’t really know where we’re from. Africa, but that is about it. The questions that surrounded and filled up my thoughts were ones such as, what countries? What is the culture? What are these people like? I really wanted to connect with myself and have an understanding of who I am and what fundamentally makes ME. I’ve always been interested in Biology and genetics so this is right up my ally.

I used Family Tree DNA first and secondly I used Ancestry.com

With Family Tree DNA I used a mtDNA test which is way more in depth than most and looks for a specific marker on your mitochondrial DNA which is only passed down by mothers. Everyone has it, but only women can pass it to the next generation.

When I got my first results back it traced my mtDNA to the L1B halo group. Which is the first group of people after “mitochondrial eve”. HOW COOL IS THAT? My lineage is around 180,000 years old on my mothers line in Central and Eastern Africa. Modern day countries such as Ethiopia and Kenya.

I wanted to also know the more recent parts of my ancestry too. The mtDNA tests the most ancient parts of your line and civilization.

The test I did with Ancestry DNA tested my recent genetic makeup percentages.

 

So I’m 78% African!!!! Woohoo! My top two African percentages are Cameroon/Congo and Ghana! I was ecstatic because I have been planning a trip to Ghana and felt as if I was Ghanaian.

There are also low trace regions on my DNA which just means these ancestors were further back, percentages and they’re not completely sure I share DNA with these peoples. Nigeria 18% (how cool is that?), Benin/Togo 4% Mali 3% as well as Africa North. Senegal, Africa South Eastern Bantu and South Central Hunter Gatherers are all lower regions. My DNA from those places isn’t recent enough for a higher number.

Next region. 21% European? I knew I had European in me just didn’t realize which countries. I happen to be 12% Irish (What?) 4% British, 3% Italian (I love Italian food) and 1% or less Europe West and Iberian Peninsula. I thought I would be more British and I had no idea about Irish. (How could I anyway?)

How awesome is all of that? I just love how much of a mixture I have in my DNA. Not to mention that 1% or less Middle Eastern popped up on there too. That was a shocker!

Why does all this matter?

It isn’t only important for African Americans to know their roots, everyone else should as well. Even if you know your family is Irish or Mexican, whatever the case you may get a surprise and find something you didn’t know. America is the melting pot of the world but our own uniqueness and differences matter and make us valuable individuals who bring different cultures and experiences to the table.

I’m especially proud to be from these African regions and belong to one of the oldest halo groups. At least I know my genes will be passed on for another 100,000 years (haha). Assuming we don’t wipe out humanity before then. I loved this experience and what it taught me. Considering my European DNA didn’t get there by choice I’m not as happy about it, but it is still apart of me which I acknowledge and learn from.

Remember if you don’t know who you are and where you came from how can you know where you’re going?

If you’ve ever considered doing one of these you should! Don’t be scared or nervous. Especially if you have no idea where your ancestors were from (like me). We should embrace our individuality and encourage others to do the same.

For more in depth information test your mom, dad, siblings and grand parents or even cousins. We get all different kinds of genes at conception you never know who got what!

Why Loving Yourself Can Save Your Love Life

Life Writes with Tiffany

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I’m sure you’ve heard how important it is to love yourself before getting into a relationship. What exactly does that mean? How do we do it? What are the benefits of knowing how to properly love yourself?

Relationships are nothing short of tricky and challenging at times. Given you’re with a good person who you accept you would probably flourish. There is nothing like LOVING yourself to secure that any relationship you have won’t be a waste of time.

Few Reasons To Learn To Love You Before Getting Serious

1. Standards, Morals and boundaries
2. Self Fulfillment
3. Confidence & Stability are attractive
4. Healthy Relationship

Standards. When you love and respect yourself you ultimately lay out standards and boundaries in a relationship. You don’t have to be too high maintenance to set out how you would want to be respected and treated in a relationship. This is definitely…

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Why Loving Yourself Can Save Your Love Life

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I’m sure you’ve heard how important it is to love yourself before getting into a relationship. What exactly does that mean? How do we do it? What are the benefits of knowing how to properly love yourself?

Relationships are nothing short of tricky and challenging at times. Given you’re with a good person who you accept you would probably flourish. There is nothing like LOVING yourself to secure that any relationship you have won’t be a waste of time.

Few Reasons To Learn To Love You Before Getting Serious

1. Standards, Morals and boundaries
2. Self Fulfillment
3. Confidence & Stability are attractive
4. Healthy Relationship

Standards. When you love and respect yourself you ultimately lay out standards and boundaries in a relationship. You don’t have to be too high maintenance to set out how you would want to be respected and treated in a relationship. This is definitely one of the most important concepts in loving yourself

If you have no boundaries for what you will allow and tolerate you may end up in a relationship with someone who treats you horrible. Which of course will inevitably end in a lot of heart ache and eventually a break up.

Set your standards and boundaries early on! Go into relationship knowing that you will not tolerate certain things. An example may be someone who argues, yells and degrades you. Make it known that you have no toleration for that treatment!

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Self Fulfillment. You need to appreciate and like yourself in order to love yourself. Make sure you know you up until this point in your life. Get to know yourself and identify and appreciate your own qualities and uniqueness. Once you understand what you bring to the table you’ll be less likely to accept anything that could potentially hurt you emotionally or physically in a relationship. Not only will you save yourself from pain, but you will also make your significant other more attracted to you.

Confidence & Stability. Sorry to break it to you but insecurities can kill a relationship, even a good one. Not only is confidence attractive but it is necessary for a healthy relationship! Insecurity leads to doubt and fear. Two things you really don’t need in your new relationship.

Take time to fall in love with yourself. Gain that sense of confidence. Maybe you need to start telling yourself how awesome you are and go soul searching inside of yourself to figure out what you love about you and where your confidence stems from.

Healthy Relationship. Last but not least make sure your new relationship has good communication, trust, RESPECT and forgiveness. Don’t be with someone who is too hard on you. Always refer back to your boundaries and standards of what you’ll tolerate to be clear about the way you want to be treated. Be happy and whole before the relationship and make sure this person ADDS to your happiness like never before.

Never be with someone out of loneliness!

Hope this serves you well. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, always remember the importance of loving you!

 

 

Poetry|Don’t You Know?

Don’t you know how unique you are

In all the years there has never been one quite as exquisite as you

Don’t you know how beautiful you are

Your beauty transcends barriers that would have never been broken

Don’t you see how valuable you are

More rare and precious than the finest jewel

Don’t you see how necessary you are

You existence is crucial to this universe, your creator believed so

Don’t you see how intelligent you are,

Your ideas, your thoughts and your mind are all working together to create and invent only the finest things known to man

Don’t you see how brilliant you are,

Look at what you’ve done, everything you have become, you never grow tired of doing what you have to do

Don’t you see how loving you are,

You care for even the tiniest creatures in all of creation and your forgiveness reaches the farthest depths

Don’t you see how loyal you are,

Your friends depend and count on you, you are their rock

Don’t you see how important you are,

This world needs one of you because there has never been and never will be another

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BABY, Your Hair is Good Hair!

Baby, Your hair, is GOOD hair!

Have you ever heard someone say that a certain type of hair is “good hair” and another is “bad”?

I know you’ve heard it if you’re black and probably have heard it even if you’re not. Well I’m here to tell you that your hair is GOOD hair no matter how kinky, curly or hard to manage it may be. It’s good because your creator endowed you with it. You make your hair, your face, smile eyes and even personality!

How shallow is our society anyway, to say that one person’s hair is better than another. How can hair be bad? Hair is an object, it cannot do anything except grow from our scalps. So in all honesty it is neither good or bad. It’s just HAIR! Personalities, attitudes and people can be good or bad not hair!

So wear your luscious, and beautiful good hair. Love it, embrace it because it is a part of you. We’re all so unique, everything about us differs from person to person.

Next time you hear someone saying this educate them on the reality that hair doesn’t not make a person. Hair is neither good or bad. Rather than looking at something and superficial as hair to judge a person by, how about you judge them by their kindness, humility and ability to forgive.

Why have we become so superficial? Looks are everything in today’s world. What happened to honor, charity, intelligence and so on?

I was watching a video on Facebook (of course) with a mother who took her 6 month old son to get a hair cut because he had “bad hair”. This baby was in the chair screaming and crying while the mother attempted to hold his head still.

I’ll be so happy when we can reach the point where we no longer give priority to the physical aspect or appearance and can appreciate people for who they are and what their uniqueness brings to the world. Until that day, don’t forget… Baby you hair is good hair, your hair is BEAUTIFUL and unique just like you!

 

 

 

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Are You Present in the Moment?

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How to be Present in the MOMENT

We’ve all experienced those times where we are kind of on auto mode. Whether it is at work, driving or in the comfort of your own home. You drive somewhere and don’t remember the actual drive, or you go through your daily tasks not really paying attention to the world around you.

Being present in the moment is practicing mindfulness.

We need to practice being in the moment because you never know when will be your last moment.

You may be wrapped up in the future, your daily tasks for tomorrow at work, or what you’ll say to someone, or even deciding how you’ll get an important project done. Face it, we are all busy in different ways.

Our kids, friends or significant others value our time with them. In our society technology and social media distract us from being present when we’re with our loved ones.

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Here are a few steps you could take to help with being mindful:

1. Put your phone away, or turn it off
2. Ask meaningful questions to catch up with family and friends
3. Take a deep breathe and really look at your surroundings and what is going on around you
4. Be aware of what you’re eating or snacking on
5. Take time to do daily deep breathing in attempt to prepare or reflect on the day

Mindful eating is important as well. Too often we are caught in our favorite TV show and grab a bag of chips while in auto mode, not really thinking about making a healthier choice.

Being more mindful will help you to be healthier, achieve your goals, and have more time for what REALLY matters.

Once you set a few goals each day towards mindfulness, it will become a part of you. You’ll do it automatically and begin to really reflect and enjoy life.

Mindfulness or being present in the moment really gives our lives meaning. Too many things in our lives are taken for granted, people too, and life is way to short to waste anytime.

What could you change in your life or every day routine to become more mindful of your surroundings?

 

 

Potential and Preperation 

What is potential? The ability to have certain traits and circumstance that could lead to your success? Your personality, attitude, energy level and even intelligence.
Is potential the set of skills that you’re naturally born with? Could it also be the energy that is within you to have the ability to do a certain task. Potential is something you must grow, feed, and take care of.
So you have the potential. I believe all of us do, we just have to find it and CULTIVATE it into something so spectacular that the whole world will be mesmerized. You have to believe in you, once you do, figure out what your potential is in. Maybe you have potential in multiple things. We need to stop putting all our time to one task when we have the brain power to efficiently be excellent at whatever we please.
How do you prep your potential to take form into your greatest aspirations? Blue prints, lists, planning, undying determination, some failures, and most of all a passion for what you’re doing.
At any given moment we only use 10% of our brain power!!! So what about the other 90?
Potential and preparation are essential to living a successful life.

Let’s get something straight. Success does not equal money!! No, success is achieving your dreams, attaining happiness and living and walking in your purpose. Recognize your potential, make note of how excellent you are at certain things. Next prepare. Put in the time and thought into making your dreams a reality.
Potential an preperation will lead you to your PURPOSE in this world.

Sometimes life prepares us for a higher purpose that we had no prior knowledge of. Sometimes you prepare and harvest potential throughout your life without even realizing it.
When you mixed preperation with potential your on a rocket to self fulfilling achievement. Be mindful in this moment, you need to be able to see CLEARLY to get done the task at hand.

What comes to mind? Is there some project you’ve been neglecting? Some dream that is on hold? An idea that is waiting to surface!?
Your potential and preperation are KEY to getting started. Once you start who can stop you right?