This may sound crazy since we live in a generation where young marriage is looked down upon.
A few decades ago this wouldn’t have been so surprising. My grandpa proposed to my grandma when she was 18.
They were married for 53 years before he died.
Living during these times and being married is sort of rewarding. It’s great to know that we are doing something that has been lost in recent generations.
Do people even look forward to marriage anymore?
I’ll be honest. I was the little girl who dreamed of getting married. The one who couldn’t wait to be a mother and wife.
This generation has lost that sense of romanticism. Like in the movies.. the kind of love you read about.
Our world is very selfish. Me, me, me with no regard for anyone else.
When you’re married you can’t be like that. Instead you look at how you can be of service to the person you’ve committed your life to.
Because you want to. Because they’re your best friend. Because life without them would be drastically different.
For the sake of love?
At first, but it won’t always be like this. You won’t always “feel” in love. In fact you’ll probably get irritated, angry and impatient.
They’re going to fail you and you’re going to fail them. It’s okay you’re both human.
What matters is the promise. The covenant made between two people who love and value each other more than anything else.
It’s great knowing there’s someone in your corner all the time. Someone to talk to. To go through life with.
Someone that will be there when things get crazy. When life comes knocking at your door in the middle of the night and all you can do is depend on them.
Because we all have someone in our lives like that. Even if it’s just a friend.
How amazing it is for that person to be the one you commit your life to. For better and for worse, rich or poor.
It’s sad knowing this generation has lost this. Lost the ability to love and forgive freely. To trust and be trusted.
Most of all it’s sad knowing our generation can’t get past themselves to see something bigger.
Because at the end of the day, when you’re old and tired and sick….
Degrees won’t matter
Accomplishments won’t matter
Careers you’ve had won’t matter
What matters is the relationships you’ve made with those around you.
You don’t want to look back on life to find you spent so much time on YOU that you’re left with no one there.
I’ve seen it before. I used to work in a nursing home. People who have dedicated everything for their careers sacrificing things they thought they didn’t want.
Only to find that they be left alone with regret and loneliness.
I hope this makes you think. I hope it makes you think about your relationship with friends and others who are close.
To me being married at 22 is one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Even if you don’t want to get married at least value those around you. The quality of our life is made by the relationships we held on to and the people we treasured.
Consider this. Ponder on it and let me know what you think.
Until next time..